Do not deceive yourself by thinking that there is a perfect person for you, because there is not one, and neither are you.
“Stay single until you find a man that ____”. “Stay single until you find a woman who is like ____”. “Do not start a relationship until ____”. “You do not feel your head if you do not ____”. “Go on alone until ____”. What a burden …
But sometimes I think that all that does not make any sense.
We put so much effort into finding that “right person”, the “chosen one”, THAT ideal person that we have in our mind, that to try it with any other person seems a waste of time. We firmly believe that we are conformist if the person we decided to leave with is not exactly how we imagined it.
It is a lovely idea to wait until the right person appears and to remain single until then, but do not you also think of a very narrow perspective?
How will you know that you have found “true love” if you have not lost another along the way? How can you know that you have found the definitive person to spend the rest of your life if you have not left before with some crap, if you have not gone through hell with the support of another person, if you can not accept the imperfections, if not Do you learn and grow with the other person, even if that relationship ends up exploding?
Love is not something linear. There is no direct path to that final happiness. There are potholes, broken hearts, broken ties and moments of defeat. There are times when you fall in love with the wrong person and times you hurt those who matter most to you.
Love is not perfect and it is time to stop hoping it is .
There are still things to be said in terms of finding the right person, when to put your head down or when you have to find a way out if you are not happy. There are still things to be said about giving your heart to someone who does not give you theirs, or about being aware of what you deserve and not being afraid to defend your position.
There are still things to be said about protecting the heart when it is hurt and not letting any stranger get close. There are still things to be said about waiting for the right person and not entering into a relationship if you are not 100% sure.
But there’s also a lot to be said about making mistakes.
There is nothing wrong with dating and starting relationships that you do not always see sense but that make you feel something. There is nothing wrong in giving your heart to someone who makes you feel alive or in believing in impossible loves.
We have to stop telling us that we will know the perfect person who does and says just what we would like, because, however ideal, that person does not exist.
We have to stop limiting ourselves thinking that we can not find “the perfect match” if we do not find that perfect, wonderful and flawless person. We have to stop telling us that we will know the perfect person who does and says just what we would like, because, however ideal, that person does not exist.
Instead, we have to look for a person who does not always say or do the right thing, but who makes our heart be strong and serene. A person who wants to grow by our side, learn with us, fight with us and for us.
It is not about finding a perfect person , but about finding a real relationship.
And it’s not about continuing to be single until the right person appears, but about dating, falling in love, growing up, becoming, and finally knowing that person somewhere along the way.
It is about being wrong.
So do not hold back. Do not force yourself to stay single just because you are not in a relationship with “the right person”. Do not deceive yourself by thinking that there is a perfect person for you, because it is not true, and neither are you (fortunately).
It is not about finding a perfect person, but about finding a real relationship.
Do not impose rules, guidelines or instructions on how you should feel.
Just love Trust Meet people, experience new experiences, create memories, laugh and do not waste your life wanting that perfect relationship.
Do not waste so much time analyzing love that you forget to love.
Being single is fine. Falling in love with the wrong person is fine. Not having found the “ultimate love” is fine. We are talking about love, and of love there is no instruction manual. Let your bonds grow, let your feelings flow and let your heart beat free.
The “right person”, imperfect and wonderful with whom you want to spend the rest of your life will one day cross your path, but until then, let your heart venture.